Woud you judge someone if he or she has a different set of values or place different priorities or have a lifestlye that is different from you? Would you feel weird if that someone is your closed friend or is someone whom you respect and admire a lot and then it turns out, this person is engaged in something that makes you rethink your admiration or respect for them?
Lets say someone whom you respected a lot told you that she is involved with a married man. She knows that what she is doing is going to hurt the parties involved and yet she still carry on with what she is doing. You, on the other hand, is someone who has a very well-defined set of rights and wrongs. What your friend is doing is going against with your values and you do not feel comfortable with it.
Will you judge her and lose your respect for her?
Unfortunately, humans are flawed. Everyone has committed certain acts in their lives which they are not proud of. This is cos sometimes temptations are just too much for us to avoid. If that is the case, who are we to judge others, much less than to lecture on them for their actions. The values that you define as right or wrong are only limited to your definition and other people's definition will differ from you. So which set of definitions do you rely on when you are making your judgement of others, your friend or yours?