Saturday, August 13, 2005
Full cup, half cup or just a broken cup?
Can there be really a long lasting commitment between 2 persons? This was the question that I have been asking myself since last night, after hearing my sis telling me that she very cold-heartedly ended her 4 years long relationship with her boyfriend, who by the way was still very much infactuated with her. She said that the relationship was getting 'routine, stale" and her feelings, the spark had died. She is going to have some serious explaining to do to my parents who were looking really forward to him as a son-in-law.
My point is, can there ever truly be a long lasting love for someone else? A love so deep that the spark will never vanish and the relationship just goes on and on forever, till-death-do-us-apart kind of love. Does anyone still believe in that now? I used to.
I used to believe that when you fall in love, really deeply in love, you will never fall out of it, cos you will just continue falling harder and harder until you cannot even pull yourself out of the ditch that you fell into without even realizing it. I use to believe that if I were to really fall in love with someone else, I will commit my whole for this someone, my body and my soul. Thats why I don fall in love so easily cos its difficult to get me to really fall deep and hard for someone else. My philosophy is, there is no such thing as half a cup of love, there is either a full cup or an empty cup.
However, recent events prove to me that there can actually be half cups of love.
And with my sis's experience, I was left wondering, can there ever be a love that last a lifetime where 2 person will stay commited to each other and be there for each other? I had been through 2 types of relationship, the first one with someone who wanted to commit with me initially but then the feelings just died off and the second one with someone who wants no commitment with me. The first one being a full cup of love but in the end, became empty cup and the second, a broken cup?
I think I was just too naive to be disillusioned with all these stupid romantic thoughts. Perhaps I have really learnt my lesson. Whatever the case, I don for one believe that i can fall in love or stay commited ever again, and I am not so foolish as to think that there will be a Mr Right for me. There is no Mr Right or Miss Right, for that matter. Its just a term coined up by romantic empty-headed boys or girls who are always on the lookout for romance to give meaning to their lives. And on the same note, I think all relationships will end, one way or another, its just a matter of time. If you are happy, then stay together, if not, then go separate ways. There really is no such thing as a long lasting love cos there really is no love to begin in the first place, its just timed-infactuation, if I may put it that way. Sooner or later, the infactuation will fade and then its time to wake up and move on.
Posted by iRis at 2:50 PM