Just last week, a friend of mine went to buy a shoe, after a long time of consideration. I almost thought that he was never going to get one actually. It was after much pushing from me that he finally decided to go ahead and get it.
The shoes were very nicely done and in my opinion, it was well worth the money spent, though the owner seem to think otherwise.
There is one drawback though. The shoes were rather narrow, although it was huge, the largest size that the store carried.
No matter, I said. As long as the price is reasonable, in my opinion at least, and the design is nice. Its only that the width is a little tight.
And so with that advice, he went ahead to get the pair.
The first time he wore it, he complained that it was tight, squeezing the side of his feet and making him uncomfortable while walking.
"It will get seasoned soon enough." I reassured him. "And it look nice, thats all it matters.."
It was only this morning that this whole incident struck me, with quite a ferocity, in fact. I liked the shoes, I find it worth the money and I think its nice. So logically, it would be good for my friend and persuaded him to get it. The main thing here is I assumed that it will benefit my friend and therefore I made him get it.
In actual fact, I was wrong. I felt that it was good for him but in actual fact, the shoes actually hurt him while he was wearing it and walking with it. Never in my head did it strike me that what I assumed was beneficial for him would actually hurting him. I could only form my impression based on the exterior.
At the end of the day, what I wanted to say here is that whatever you feel is beneficial for someone else might actually ended up hurting him. Its just like the age old arguments that exist between parents and their kids. Classic example would be Father feels that studying medicine is good for the son. Son however prefers to study Arts. Father forces son to take up medicine. Son hated it and perform badly in it, ending up dropping out of school.
Never in a million' years would it occur to the Father that his Son do not like Medicine and therefore will not do well in it.
So, maybe all of us should really place outselves in the shoes of others before we go ahead and decide for others.
Because at the end of the day, only we know ourselves best and no one else are able to know what is best for ourselves.
Then again, what will happen if we ourselves don even know what is best for ourselves? Now thats a scary thought....